Not That Kind of Girl

Not That Kind of Girl

A Young Woman Tells You What She's "learned"

Book - 2014
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For readers of Nora Ephron, Tina Fey, and David Sedaris, this hilarious, poignant, and extremely frank collection of personal essays confirms Lena Dunham - the acclaimed creator, producer, and star of HBO's Girls - as one of the brightest and most original writers working today.

Lena Dunham is many, many things. Creator, actor, producer and writer of the award-winning cult television show Girls, but the first thing you have to know about Lena is that she's unafraid to say exactly what she thinks. She's also provocative, very funny, original, dead-pan, disturbing, neurotic, simultaneously deep and shallow, and often way, way out there. This book is a collection of her experiences, stories that have, as she describes them, little baby morals: about dieting, about dressing, about friendship and existential crises. These are stories that most twenty something year old girls will be able to relate to: about the guys she's let sleep in her bed who didn't really want to fuck her, about getting her butt touched at an internship and having to prove herself in a meeting full of 50-year-old men.

"It's all about trying to work out what to wear, what to say and how to be, every single day. And if I could take what I've learned and make one menial job easier for you, or prevent you from having the kind of sex where you feel you must keep your sneakers on in case you want to run away during the act, then every misstep of mine was worthwhile. I'm already predicting my future shame at thinking I had anything to offer you, but also my future glory in having stopped you from trying an expensive juice cleanse or thinking that it was your fault when some guy suddenly got weird and defensive talking about your cool interests and job. No, I am not a sexpert, a psychologist or a dietician. I am not a happily married woman or the owner of a successful support hosiery franchise. But I am a girl with a keen interest in having it all, sending hopeful dispatches from the frontlines of that struggle."

Publisher: Sydney, New South Wales, Fourth Estate, [2014]
Copyright Date: ©2014
ISBN: 9780732297916
Characteristics: xvii, 265 pages : illustrations (some color), portraits ; 22 cm.


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Nov 01, 2016

I had no idea what to expect when I took this book out, having never seen her television show, but I'm surprised by how much I'm enjoying the book. It's provocative and would probably shock a certain element of society, but I found her honesty and candor refreshing. If you're interested in her background, check out her parents' art on-line, because that will help explain a lot about who Lena is and how she became so seemingly immune to controversy.

Oct 10, 2016

Not what I thought it would be. Not interesting at all. It was a waste of time.

Aug 04, 2016

I adore Lena Dunham. She's abrasive and in-your-face and honest as all hell. She's like a coarse Nora Ephron, Jr., emulating the late great in many ways. But, at her age (and I'm younger than her, so this shouldn't sound too condescending), she can't write a genuinely great memoir. Her life is great and can seem grand and wonderful to the onlookers, the fans of GIRLS, the indie film circuit who revelled in her little-known flick TINY FURNITURE. But you can't write 250 pages about your twenty-eight years without starting to sound redundant. In fact, she starts to repeat herself about halfway through. A mere 100 to 150 pages max would have suited her better; her editor needed to show Lena how to kill her darlings, cutting a few essays here and there. What I did like, though, is her prose. Her style speaks to me, a natural flow that is both articulate and conversational, eloquent but not verbose. I enjoyed that. I also liked her structure, grouping essays into work and sex and love and such, breaking them down by subject matter. It worked well for her. What I like best is that, in one essay, she said that she couldn't wait to turn eighty and write a tell-all about all the men who treated her like scum, the famous names who wanted sex in exchange for success. She didn't drink the Kool-Aid; she took the high road instead. And I'm glad. And I can't wait until Lena turns eighty. That's a book I'll want to read. NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL is okay for now, though. For fans of hers, I'd still recommend it.

Jun 19, 2016

Loved it.

Jan 09, 2016

It is a very humorous and easy read. There are many parts to her experiences that I think many people can relate to, others you can't help but laugh.

Dec 22, 2015

I didn't love or hate this book. It was not a smooth progressive story with a timeline, instead it was just a series of stories about odd relationships all put together.
It was entertaining at times, and sometimes I did laugh at the humor. But some of it I found "fluff", and would just skip the story entirely.

Sep 04, 2015

I didn’t know what to expect from this book when I started it, but I ended up being glad I read it. There were times in the book where I thought Lena Dunham was insufferable, but most of the time it was entertaining and interesting to read her essays about her Millennial, New Yorker life.

MaryCatherine8183 Sep 03, 2015

Mediocre crap. Waste of time. What told this Lena 'girl' she had anything of value to say is beyond me. How or why she ended up with a T.V show just shows me the sad state America is in, when this sort of trash is entertainment.

librarylizzard Aug 27, 2015

Lena Dunham is controversial to some, but that doesn't make her writing any less engaging. She is hilarious and awkward in a way that definitely made me feel some schadenfreude (like when she meets a group of cool new people and proceeds to vomit all over their carpet). I'm guessing some of it may be embellished a bit, but it is truly entertaining, and for that I forgive all trespasses. Be prepared for a lot of talk about uncomfortable situations. I was squirming with embarrassment for her at times, but since she is so successful I can't feel too bad!

Catmamakim Jul 05, 2015

Hilarious, disturbing, and provocative. Not as harsh as Chelsea Handler and a much smoother read. The book is divided into collections of short narratives instead of being one long storyline. I appreciated this setup as it allowed for breaks in between some of the heavier content.

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